Hi there friends– Last Saturday we had a morning wedding shower for adorable Sally. She is a graphic artist. So we decided that each of the 6 hostesses would pick an art piece and use it to launch into a bit of friendly advice for a new bride. I chose “Thanksgiving” by Doris Lee (painted 1935, presently hanging in the Chicago Art Institute). Here’s a bit of what was said:
…Laurie Colwin wrote–“No one who cooks, cooks alone. Even at her most solitary, a cook in the kitchen is surrounded by generations of cooks past, the advice and menus of cooks present, the wisdom of cookbook writers.”
As you start cooking in your married kitchen, with all these new pans and dishes we get to “shower” on you, Im hoping you’ll feel a kinship with all those cooks who’ve fed you and taught you along the way.
I can imagine you cooking with/for Scott in the months and years ahead…
Thomas Wolfe wrote, “There is no spectacle more appealing than that of a beautiful woman in the act of cooking dinner for someone she loves.”
And Julia Child said, “I think careful cooking is love, don’t you? The loveliest thing you can cook for someone who’s close to you, is about as nice a valentine as you can give.”
Quiet meals talking together, simple of special occasion meals, are times that knit you together. It’s time to talk through your day, to share the joy of good food with each other across the table.
And it seems, Sally, that you are a girl with many, many dear friends, so I have a feeling you’ll be feeding more people that just Scott!
Ted Allen said, “Cooking for people is an enormously significant expression of generosity and soulfulness, and entertaining is a way to be both generous and creative. You’re sharing your life with people.”
There will be dinner parties and bar-b-ques, picnics and take out food in front of football games, fancy deserts and bowls of chili. Shared with friends, these all taste better…
The first famous food writer, M.F.K. Fisher wrote, “I am more modest now, but I still think that one of the pleasantest of all emotions is to know that I, I with my brain and my hands, have nourished my beloved few, that I have concocted a new stew or a story, a rarity or a plain dish, to sustain them truly against the hungers of the world.”
So I do see plenty of cooking ahead in your future Sally– for Scott, for family, for friends. There’s a whole of of nurturing going on as you set our those plates and lay the food on the table for people you love.
And one last word of advice from Julia Child, “A party without cake is just a meeting.”
So here’s to cake and good times around your table for years to come…